The first day of school or daycare can be emotionally challenging for both parents and children. While some kids adjust smoothly, others may struggle, transforming drop-offs into heart-wrenching experiences. Kylie Ridder, lecturer in early childhood education at Murdoch University, explained that feelings of anxiety during transitions are common and age-appropriate but can escalate into separation anxiety disorder in about 4% of children. However, thoughtful strategies can help ease the process.
Preparing for the transition
Preparation is essential in helping children adapt to new environments. Ridder advised building familiarity before the first day. Visiting the school or daycare centre multiple times, playing in its playground, or observing routines from a distance can help children feel more comfortable.
Social connections are also crucial. Parents are encouraged to attend local playgroups, make friends with other families, and foster relationships with children who will attend the same daycare or school. Practising school activities at home, such as opening lunchboxes or reading themed books like Maddie’s First Day by Penny Matthews, can also build confidence.
Establishing predictable routines
Creating a consistent drop-off routine helps children feel secure. Ridder suggested a simple sequence, such as putting away the child’s bag, engaging in a short activity together, exchanging goodbyes, and leaving. This predictability reduces uncertainty and provides comfort.
Parents should avoid sneaking away, as it can undermine trust and heighten anxiety. Instead, clearly inform the child before leaving. The duration of the drop-off should remain consistent to avoid confusing or overwhelming the child.
Some early learning centres employ a primary caregiver model, where one educator takes responsibility for a specific child’s care. Parents can strengthen relationships with these educators, who can offer tailored support during drop-off.
Fostering belonging and strengths
A smooth transition involves collaboration between parents and educators. Teachers work to create a sense of belonging by focusing on children’s strengths and encouraging positive engagement. Parents can reinforce this effort by celebrating their child’s achievements and discussing daily activities, helping the child view school or daycare as “their place.”
Children may bring a comfort item, such as a toy or photo, to ease the separation. Open communication with educators about these strategies can make the adjustment smoother.
Adapting to change
Transitions can be complex, and children may regress after initial success. Ridder noted that most children calm down shortly after their parents leave, but prolonged anxiety might require intervention. Parents and educators should work together to revisit strategies and support the child.
Every child’s experience is unique, and patience is key. While transitions can be daunting, they also open the door to new opportunities and relationships. With preparation and a collaborative approach, parents can help their children embark on this new chapter with confidence and joy.